passing and holidays

Many of you may be familiar with the beginning of my book:
"When my mother Sophie died of a sudden heart attack in her Philadelphia, Pa. home, my own life seemed to end as well. This was not my first experience with death. There had been other deaths. The only grandparent I knew, my mother's mother was gone. Three of my mother's brothers were gone, plus a few close friends and people I worked with. I knew of death. I regarded it as the end of their learning experience on earth, and the end of our learning experience with them. I felt sad for their family and friends, but after a few days I would just get on with living. I will miss you. Good-bye." Of course, it wasn't like that with my Mom.
I have been speaking recently to people who either have faith in that there is an afterlife, or have had first hand experiences. Because of knowing about the other side, when they lose a loved one they are taken aback that sadness and a feeling of lost follows us, and the communication is not as they thought it would be. After their passing it is felt that our loved ones will be with us more, or contact us more. With the holidays coming it makes it harder. Please be patient with yourself and sadness, as our loved ones are still with us, however not in the same way. Know that with time things settle and we understand that the loss means new traditions and feelings that help. Our loved ones are not gone is good to know and also know that they have your love with them as you have their love with you. I always remember too that I will see my Mom and Dad again and they know that I am doing the best I can with all that has been given to me over the year.

Friends.

As I was giving a speech a couple of months ago, I noticed that a friend of mine was in the audience. I always answer psychic personal questions from this type of audience and a young woman asked a question about her deceased father. My friend had a look on her face as though a light bulb had gone off in her mind. I wondered what it was that she was thinking. At the end of the speech as I said good night to everyone, I watched as she stood up quickly and ran to the young woman before she could leave, and took her aside. My friend did most of the talking and then I saw her face look pleased about something. A few weeks later I learned that she had talked the young woman into coming to see her for psychic work. She had been coming to my speeches to get people to come to her. She would always approach someone young who would not see something wrong with this. When I approached her she got very upset and used the, "miscommunication" card. I always wonder how many people don't understand that when people do this, there is no miscommunication, but a real lack of morals. These are the people who should not be our friends, for these are people who we have a contract with and when the contract is over, we need to move on to hopefully better people. Look closely to who your friends are and when they turn out to be doing the wrong thing in your behalf, know that it is time to move on. It is as much harm to allow others to harm you, as it is to harm others, especially when we find out about it. If you have any thoughts on this, it would be nice to hear.